As a pastor, I've seen many couples struggle with the test of love in the face of uncertainty. When feelings are strong, it's easy to believe that love will conquer all, but when the going gets tough, it's a different story. I've counseled many young adults who insist on living together before marriage, thinking it's a way to test their love, but statistics show that it often leads to a higher divorce rate. My wife Susan and I have been married for 19 years, and we've had our share of ups and downs, but our commitment to each other and to God has kept us strong.
Love is not just a feeling, but a responsibility that requires effort and commitment. As the Bible says, "Love is a responsibility, that, when rightly practiced, reignites feelings of joyous affection and strong passion." (1 Corinthians 13:4-7) It's not just about how we feel, but about how we choose to act in love, even when it's hard. My son Joshua and daughter Rebecca are still young, and they're learning what it means to love and be loved, but they're also learning that love requires sacrifice and commitment.
When love is tested in the face of uncertainty, it's easy to get caught up in our own desires and expectations. But as Christians, we're called to trust in God's sovereignty and His plan for our lives. We're not just searching for a feeling or a romantic partner, but for someone who will be our partner in life, in good times and bad. As I reflect on my own marriage, I'm reminded that love is not just a feeling, but a choice that requires commitment, sacrifice, and trust in God.