Biblical Answer

God's sovereignty and our free will are not mutually exclusive, but rather, they work together in a way that is both mysterious and beautiful. When it comes to relationships, God's sovereignty means that He is actively involved in every aspect of our lives, including the relationships we form. However, this does not mean that God causes us to sin or that He orchestrates our relationships to be unhealthy or toxic. Instead, God's sovereignty allows Him to work through our free will choices to bring about good and redeeming purposes. In other words, God can use even the most difficult and painful relationships to bring about spiritual growth and maturity in us, if we are willing to trust Him and seek His guidance.

It's also important to note that God's love and sovereignty are not dependent on our performance or behavior. He loves us unconditionally, regardless of our actions or choices. However, this does not mean that we are free to sin and harm others without consequence. Rather, God's love and sovereignty work together to convict us of our sin and to draw us back to Himself, even when we are in unhealthy relationships. As the Psalmist writes, "Against You, You only, have I sinned" (Psalm 51:4). This means that when we are in a relationship with someone who is causing us harm, we must acknowledge our own sin and responsibility in the situation, rather than blaming God or others.

Ultimately, the question of why God allowed us to get into a relationship with a bad person is a complex and mysterious one. However, it is clear that God's sovereignty and love are not limited by our choices or circumstances. Rather, He is always working to bring about good and redeeming purposes, even in the midst of difficult and painful relationships. As we navigate these situations, we must trust in God's goodness and sovereignty, and seek His guidance and wisdom. We must also acknowledge our own sin and responsibility, and seek to follow God's leading in our lives, even when it's hard. By doing so, we can experience spiritual growth and maturity, and develop a deeper understanding of God's love and sovereignty.