Biblical Answer

Forgiveness is a choice that we make, not a feeling. It's a decision to trust that God is the God of justice and to release the person who wronged us from the debt they owe us. This doesn't mean that what they did was okay, but rather that we choose to let go of the anger and resentment that can consume us. When we forgive, we're not saying that the other person deserves our forgiveness, but rather that we deserve God's forgiveness. Christianity is built on the idea of forgiveness and grace, and we can't be Christ-like unless we cultivate a forgiving spirit.

When we hold onto unforgiveness, it can poison our souls and eat away at us. It can lead to bitterness, resentment, and even physical harm. Forgiveness is not always easy, but it's necessary for our well-being and for our relationship with God. As the Bible says, "If you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins" (Matthew 6:15). This doesn't mean that forgiveness is a prerequisite for God's forgiveness, but rather that it's a sign of our trust in His justice and goodness.

Forgiveness is not about the other person, but about us. It's about releasing the hold that unforgiveness has on us and choosing to trust in God's goodness and justice. It's not always easy, but it's a choice that we can make with God's help. As the Bible says, "Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you" (Luke 6:27-28). This is not a feeling, but a choice that we can make with God's help. And when we choose to forgive, we're not only freeing ourselves, but also freeing the person who wronged us from the debt they owe us.