Biblical Answer

Approaching the Conversation with Empathy and Understanding

When your kids ask about your surgery, it's essential to approach the conversation with empathy and understanding. Instead of immediately answering their question, gently ask them to explain why they're asking. This may help you understand what's behind their inquiry. Be honest with them and acknowledge their feelings. Some children may continue to be obstinate, but instead of demanding answers, tell them that you will be happy to talk with them when they are ready. Ask heart-proving questions to help them process their emotions.

Encouraging Open Communication and Trust

To build trust between you, your child, and God, it's crucial to provide honest and compassionate answers to their questions. Never lie or break a promise to your children, as this can create fear and mistrust. Come alongside to help, comfort, and bring courage, especially when they're struggling with difficult emotions. Your child will become who you tell them you see them becoming, so be sure to train them through practicing grace, empathy, and understanding. Lovingly look them in the eye and remind them of what remains true: "You are my child. I will always love you, even when you are disobedient. Because of that, there is always another chance to try again."

Creating a Safe and Supportive Environment

Creating a safe and supportive environment is crucial when discussing sensitive topics like surgery with your kids. Be patient and wait for them to come to you with questions. Avoid embarrassing them with frustrated scolding, and instead offer a better way of communication. Encourage them to ask questions and express their feelings, and be willing to listen and respond with empathy. By doing so, you can build trust, create a strong relationship, and help your child develop a deeper understanding of God's love and sovereignty. Remember, your child's questions are an opportunity to share God's truth and love with them, and to help them develop a biblical worldview. Be gracious, patient, and loving in your approach, and you will be amazed at the impact it can have on your child's spiritual growth and development.