Biblical Answer

When love feels like a distant memory, it's essential to refocus on the internal aspects of love. This involves examining our motives and actions, ensuring that our expressions of love are genuine and not just driven by external factors. As the Bible says, "Love is a heart that moves... Love moves away from the self and toward the other" (Dan Allender and Tremper Longman III). This means that we need to cultivate a heart that is motivated to act in love, rather than just feeling a certain way. By doing so, we can experience a deeper, more meaningful love that is not just based on emotions, but on a genuine desire to connect with and serve others.

The problem is that many of us get caught up in the external aspects of love, such as romantic feelings or physical intimacy, and forget about the internal aspects. We may experience a strong emotional connection in the early stages of a relationship, but as time goes on, this can fade. However, it's in these moments that we have the opportunity to cultivate a deeper love that is not dependent on emotions. As the Bible says, "Real love, the Bible says, instinctively seeks to fan into flame, develop, and cultivate existing desires to meet the deepest human needs" (The Meaning of Marriage). This means that we need to focus on developing our desires and longings for connection and intimacy, rather than just relying on external factors.

Ultimately, the key to experiencing a deeper love is to focus on the internal aspects of love and to cultivate a heart that is motivated to act in love. This involves developing our desires and longings for connection and intimacy, and seeking to fan into flame existing desires to meet the deepest human needs. As the Bible says, "Love is a heart that moves... Love moves away from the self and toward the other" (Dan Allender and Tremper Longman III). By doing so, we can experience a love that is not just based on emotions, but on a genuine desire to connect with and serve others. This is the kind of love that can sustain us through the ups and downs of life, and that can bring us closer to God and to each other.