Biblical Answer

In order to find a new sense of self, we must first understand that our true self is not found in our external appearance or our internal thoughts and feelings, but in our relationship with God. As St. Augustine said, "You are not found in your appearances, in which in many ways... you encounter the minds of those who understand you in the way in which you allow yourself to be understood - not what you are, but what you seem to be." This means that our sense of self is not defined by our external circumstances, but by our internal character and relationship with God.

In order to find this true self, we must undergo a change of mind, or metanoia, that results in a change of life. This means that we must surrender our old self, with all its flaws and weaknesses, and submit to the will of God. As Jesus said, "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me." This is not an easy task, but it is necessary in order to find our true self and live a life that is pleasing to God.

Ultimately, finding a new sense of self is not about discovering a new personality or a new identity, but about discovering who we are in relation to God. As the Bible says, "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts." Our true self is found in our relationship with God, and it is only by surrendering ourselves to Him that we can discover our true identity and live a life that is truly fulfilling.