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The Power of Words: Uplifting or Tearing Down

Words have the power to uplift or tear down, depending on the intent and tone behind them. In the book of Proverbs, it is stated that "the words of the wise are like goads, and those who accept them are like students who listen to find instruction and understand a proverb, a saying or riddle" (Proverbs 22:17). This highlights the importance of choosing words carefully, as they can have a profound impact on others. When words are spoken with kindness, compassion, and empathy, they can bring life and encouragement to those who hear them. On the other hand, words spoken with malice, anger, or hatred can cause harm, destruction, and even death (Proverbs 12:6, 18:21).

The Impact of Words on Relationships

The power of words can be particularly evident in relationships, whether romantic, familial, or friendships. Proverbs 25:1-22 emphasizes the importance of choosing words that build up and encourage, rather than tearing down and destroying. When we speak words of affirmation, love, and support to our partners, spouses, or loved ones, we can help to cultivate Christ in them and grow more like Christ ourselves. This is in line with the idea that our words have the power to shape and transform others. As Dan Allender and Tremper Longman note, "we are called to cultivate Christ in our spouses by the power of the spoken word" (emphasis added). By choosing words that uplift and encourage, we can help to build strong, healthy relationships that reflect the love and character of God.

The Responsibility of Word-Choosers

Ultimately, the power of words lies in the hands of those who choose them. As Proverbs 10:32 says, "The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable, but the mouth of the wicked what is perverse." This highlights the importance of being mindful of our words and the impact they can have on others. When we choose words that are kind, compassionate, and life-giving, we reflect the character of God and demonstrate our love and care for others. Conversely, when we choose words that are hurtful, destructive, or tearing down, we risk causing harm and damage to those around us. As Christians, we are called to be wise word-choosers, using our words to build up and uplift others, rather than tearing them down. By doing so, we can reflect the love and character of God in all our interactions and relationships.