Biblical Answer

Do I have to forgive someone who isn't sorry?

Forgiveness is not dependent on the other person's apology or remorse. The Bible teaches that we must forgive even if the other person does not repent or ask for forgiveness (Luke 17:3). Forgiveness is a choice we make, not a response to someone else's actions. When we forgive, we are not condoning or justifying the other person's behavior, but rather releasing the hold they have on us and our emotions.

However, it's not always easy to forgive without seeing remorse or an apology. Our feelings may not automatically follow our decision to forgive, and old memories and emotions can resurface. But forgiveness is not about how we feel, but about what we do. We can choose to forgive even if the other person doesn't deserve it, just as God forgives us even when we don't deserve it. In fact, forgiveness is a key part of being Christ-like, and it's essential for healing and moving forward.

In some cases, telling the person we've forgiven them may not be necessary or even helpful. In fact, it could do more harm than good, especially if the relationship has been damaged or if the other person is not interested in reconciling. Instead, we can choose to forgive in private, and even pray for the person we need to forgive. This can help us release the hold they have on us and our emotions, and bring healing and peace to our lives. Ultimately, forgiveness is a choice we make, and it's not dependent on the other person's actions or apology.