Biblical Answer

The Hurt of Unforgiveness

Forgiveness is not an easy process, especially when the hurt caused by another person is still fresh. Many people struggle to forgive because it feels like they are condoning the other person's behavior or letting them off the hook. However, this is not what forgiveness means. Forgiveness is not about justifying the other person's actions, but about trusting that God is the God of justice and saying, "Father, I trust that You will handle this situation." (Matthew 6:14-15)

The Process of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is not a feeling, but a choice. It's not about how we feel at the moment, but about trusting God's sovereignty and justice. When we forgive, we are not saying that the other person's actions were okay, but rather that we are releasing the hurt and resentment that has been building up inside us. This process takes practice and can be painful, but it's essential for our spiritual growth and healing. As Jesus said, "Blessed are those who have been persecuted for the sake of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are you when people insult you and persecute you, and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of Me. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward in heaven is great; for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you." (Matthew 5:10-12)

The Freedom of Forgiveness

Forgiveness brings freedom, not only to the person who is forgiven, but also to the person who is doing the forgiving. When we hold onto resentment and bitterness, it can consume us and lead to a life of despair. However, when we choose to forgive, we are releasing the hold that the other person has on us. We are saying, "I trust God to handle this situation, and I will not let it define me." Forgiveness is an act of self-defense, a tourniquet that stops the fatal bleeding of resentment. As we practice forgiveness, we will find that it becomes easier, and we will experience the freedom that comes with it. As the Bible says, "If you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins." (Matthew 6:14-15)