Biblical Answer

Can I still have a happy marriage with a terminal illness?

The question of whether one can have a happy marriage with a terminal illness is complex and deeply personal. While a terminal illness can certainly bring challenges and difficulties to a marriage, it is not a guarantee of unhappiness. In fact, many couples have reported finding joy and happiness even in the midst of great suffering. This is because true happiness in marriage is not based on external circumstances, but on the quality of the relationship and the commitment of the couple to one another.

One key factor in maintaining a happy marriage with a terminal illness is the willingness of both partners to prioritize the other's needs and well-being. This means putting the happiness of one's spouse ahead of one's own, in a sustained way, in response to what Jesus has done for us. As the Bible teaches, "There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love" (1 John 4:18). When we prioritize our spouse's happiness, we are demonstrating perfect love, which is the foundation of a happy and fulfilling marriage.

In addition to prioritizing one another's needs, couples facing a terminal illness can also find joy and happiness by focusing on the present moment and cherishing the time they have together. This means letting go of negative emotions like resentment and bitterness, and instead choosing to forgive and love one another, even in the midst of great suffering. As the Bible teaches, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres" (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). By choosing to prioritize our spouse's happiness, focusing on the present moment, and demonstrating perfect love, couples can find joy and happiness even in the midst of a terminal illness.