As a pastor and a husband, I've learned that showing love to those around us, even when we're feeling stuck, requires a commitment to act and serve in love, even when it's hard. It's easy to get caught up in the idea that our feelings of love are the basis for our actions, but the truth is that actions of love can lead consistently to feelings of love. When I'm feeling stuck, I remind myself that I've made a commitment to love Susan, my wife, and our children, Joshua and Rebecca, and that commitment is not based on how I feel, but on my desire to serve and love them.
One way to show love to those around us when we're feeling stuck is to plan intentional moments of focused attention. This can be as simple as going for a walk, sitting by the fireplace, or planning a picnic. Even making an effort to arrange these activities is an important sign and expression of love. I've found that when I take the time to plan these moments, it helps me to stay focused on my loved ones and to show them love in practical ways. Additionally, working on our own personal appearance can be a gift to our spouse, and playfulness and fun are essential in creating affectionate climates.
As I reflect on my own marriage and family, I realize that love is not just about grand romantic gestures, but about the small, everyday actions that show love and care. It's about thanking, greeting, praying for, listening to, and touching those around us. Even when I'm feeling stuck, I can still find ways to show love to Susan and our children, and I encourage others to do the same. By committing to love in practical ways, even when it's hard, we can create a more loving and supportive environment for those around us.