Biblical Answer

Forgiving oneself is a complex and challenging process, especially when we feel guilty or ashamed about our past actions. The Bible teaches that we are forgiven through the blood of Jesus Christ (1 John 1:7), and this forgiveness is available to us regardless of our past mistakes. However, many of us struggle to accept this forgiveness and instead harbor feelings of self-loathing and guilt.

To begin the process of forgiving oneself, it's essential to understand that forgiveness is not about justifying or excusing our past behavior but rather about acknowledging our mistakes and trusting in God's justice and love. Forgiveness is not about saying, "What you did is okay," but rather, "Father, I trust that You are the God of justice, and I trust Your forgiveness and love for me." This requires a willingness to let go of our need for control and perfection and instead surrender to God's sovereignty and mercy.

In order to forgive ourselves, we must first accept God's forgiveness and acknowledge our need for it. We must recognize that we are not capable of forgiving ourselves on our own and that our self-justification and self-blame only lead to further suffering. As we trust in God's forgiveness and love, we can begin to release our guilt and shame, and instead, experience the freedom and peace that comes from knowing we are forgiven. This is not a one-time event but a process that requires practice, patience, and surrender to God's sovereignty. Ultimately, forgiving oneself is not about erasing the past but about embracing the present and living in the freedom and love that comes from knowing we are forgiven through Jesus Christ.